I was reading Visi’s blog on things to do after death. The fact is I have already seen death once. After continuous 2 days of work at office, I was returning home with my friend. I was a pavillion rider in CBZ. We were discussing something very seriously as we were on the way back. It must have been past 12 in the night and this guy ‘R’ was riding at the fullest possible speed..! Suddenly, he went past a speed braker. I went up and oops… when I came back to the road the bike was not there 
I was wearing a helmet, and I can realise whats happening.. but I was unable to move or speak and even before I cld. realise I fainted.
I opened my eyes at the hospital after 2 days and the first thing I saw was my room mates and R sitting next to me with their eyes filled with tears. My first question was,
I: Did you tell my parents
R: We know you are going to be alive. So we didn’t
The whole room broke into laughter and only after they even called the doctor and the nurses arnd. to say I was alive. My backbone is gone and that keeps reminding of this incident till now. But the point was, at that time I was at the hospital for a month without access to external world. All I was seeing was my first circle relatives and my gang of friends. Apart from that noone After a month, my company arranged for work from hospital facility. When I opened my mailbox it was filled with mails where people were searching me!! It was very sad, that there was no way the message cld. have been passed to them. A few, I even remembered at the worst time but I had no clue how the message can be conveyed.
Thats when, I made a note of things to be done after my death and its at my desk draw, something personal to me… and will be dealt with only on the day I am not alive..! At a point when these people realise the person with whom they have been sharing their events of life is no more… and they didn’t even get to grieve over that, its real sad..! I didn’t want to be unfair on this part of life. Hence, had to sit and prepare this list 
I am still updating this list, but the purpose doesn’t change.
Not sure if I can prepare a list as to what you want to do after death –
only thing i want is no one should cry – although its good to know some one will cry for you !!
I just want everyone to know that only after death you go to heaven – so naturally the pain of death is required to feel the heaven !! (Howzzaat !!)
btw: http://sreekrishnan.blogspot.com/2006/09/missing-me.html
By: sreekrishnanv on '12/11/06 5:30 PM'
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Its a nice idea to have a lists of things that has to be done after one’s death that too from the same person.
My ammuchi died a decade ago, & after the rituals all the kids around ganged-up to sniff around her personal belongings. She had a small pot sealed with some watery substance. Nobody knew what it was & what to do abt it. She had even a good collection of old coins made out of all possible alloys. What did she wanted to do? God only knows.
By: Ranjhith on '12/12/06 5:52 AM'
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#SK, I do remember seeing this in your mail
Even I don’t want anyone to cry after my death. But.. yeah.. I want each and eveyrone to miss me after I die. Just a selfish feeling u see 
#Ranjhith, I def. agree. We most of the times wonder what they wanted to do with the things they collected and considered very dear to them.
By: Janitri on '12/12/06 2:32 PM'
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Oh dear
incidents in life do change how we see the world – im glad you didn’t see the accident as a stop to life – cheers to u
By: visithra on '12/15/06 6:33 AM'
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I think about this often – about the wonderful people that I got to know through the net, and some who have been, both, an immense source of strength, and a deep source of sadness – and to think, if I were to go away, or if they were to, neither of us would know.
I haven’t written any such list as you – but I’ve always imagined to have let my brother, if in any case, to be the herald of the news to these wonderful people.
By: abench on '12/18/06 9:05 AM'
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